Monthly Archives: May 2015

A tearful goodbye to my ballet family

It dawned on me as I was driving to the ballet school for one final class that it will be 10 years this fall since I first walked into the studio for the first time as I returned to dance as an adult.

I was nervous, thinking it was absolutely crazy to be trying ballet again at the old age of 39.

I found myself in a class of some amazingly encouraging, inspiring women who redefined my definition of beauty. I was content taking class, and fellowshipping with them in the lobby. I was content with class, how it was cool that it destressed ne. It was good exercise.

I had no desire to perform, but a friend talked me into being in the party scene with her in The Nutcracker, and I was bit by the performance bug.

Around the second year I was there, our school changed artistic directors and brought in a new ballet mistress.

Suddenly, ballet went from being just a hobby that was good exercise to becoming a passion where I set goals I never thought I’d set.

I went from being in class with adults around my age, to routinely being outnumbered in classes full of company kids. Because of the shortage of male students, I found myself in partnering classes, working with girls who were my daughter’s age and eventually performing a pas de deux myself.

And I went from being a deer-in-the-headlights party dad in The Nutcracker to performing as a Chinese lion, priest, brawling cowboy, frothy hairdresser and court man in Nutcracker, Romeo and Juliet, Firebird, Dracula, Billy the Kid, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty.

I also ended up helping with fundraising and performing tech crew duties when I wasn’t on stage performing.

My ballet family expanded from a wonderful group of ladies that I still call friends to dance teachers, company kids, parent-volunteers and the wardrobe ladies.

I’d been focused on my move to New Mexico that I ended up missing a lot of classes at the end.

But I felt the need to make one last class.

I was surprised by Mr. O as we left barre for center work when he entered the room with a plaque to show his appreciation for the work I put in at the ballet.

Mrs. O, our ballet mistress, taught the class. I gave her a tearful hug when class was over.

And I said a tearful goodbye to friends and faculty before walking out of the building. It was tough because the school was overrun with parents and kids registering for fall.

I do not know where my dance journey will lead from here. I hope to find a challenging open class in Albuquerque and build some relationships there.

But now, I’m kind of sad.

I started my journey just renewing a hobby. And somewhere along the line I gained a family.

Pictured is a scene from our performance of Billy the Kid. I’m the brawling cowboy on the right.billy

Adult ballet in Albuquerque?

I know I’ve been quiet the last few weeks.

I’ve been focusing on a move to New Mexico, which means a big change for my dance journey.

I’ve been to only one class since Sleeping Beauty. There has been so much to do.

My daughter and I will be moving from the South to the Southwest at the end of next week, “Taking the left turn in Albuquerque.”

We’ll be living in a small town just south of Albuquerque.

My dance journey is pretty much at a cross roads. I wonder if any of you who follow my blog happen to live in New Mexico and have any idea of a good place for an adult to take a ballet class.

Any information would be helpful. I’m not looking for a glorified exercise class that passes itself off as an adult ballet class, but one that is a “we do take ballet seriously” class.

I plan on dropping in on a couple of places. Don’t know how frequent of a class attender I will be.

I’ll be honest, it’s going to be tough on me going from taking as many as four or five classes a week and performing with a company, to just taking class occasionally. Or not taking class at all.

But I still can’t imagine class completely without ballet, even at my age.